A Suitable Helper

I joined a wonderful group of wives on Facebook. I love the support and encouragement we give one another. We share ups and downs and we even get a little feisty, giving each other ideas on how to make our bedrooms sizzle.  It's one of the best groups I've joined and even if I don't contribute all the time, I pop in to enjoy the conversations.  I usually don't share outside of the group, but this one discussion had my heart for some reason. The question on the floor was...

Why?

• Why does it seem like we as wives have to make everything better in our marriages? 
• Why do we have to initiate everything? 
• Why do we have to make sure everything is taken care of?
• Why is it always wives who seem to get the short end of the stick? 

From newlyweds to seasoned women, many wives are frustrated, tired, and downright fed up with trying to make their marriages right. We are challenged at every turn. We're not Mrs. Cleaver or Claire Huxtable so when things fall apart and we want to throw in the towel, we're to blame because the marriage failed. Sound familiar? We, pray, we cry, we pray, then we cry some more. Why?


My response:

Gen. 2:18 - Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."

The Lord has entrusted us with a lot in our role as wives. Not that we're doormats, but we have been given the privilege and responsibility of being a suitable helper for our husbands. We help build up our husbands and do what it takes to "help" them be what God purposed them to be. It's a huge undertaking... It's not always easy or fun, but it's what we've been charged to do. We speak the truth in love to our husbands and with a gentle and quiet spirit, we show them the way. Every household is different. But prayer is so powerful for any household. It may take time, bur prayer really does change things! And like our pastor said in this past Sunday's sermon, put God first, seek Him first, and He's got you covered. You won't have to worry or fret. He got you.

Another good verse to mediate on is 1 Peter 3: 1-6.

In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

I believe this is the secret the Lord gave us so we can be the suitable helper He created us to be. Remember, not a doormat, but finding clever, godly ways to help our husbands be the Kingdom Men God called them to be.

A suitable helper.

When we become the Kingdom Women we are supposed to be and our husbands become the Kingdom Men they are supposed to be, we will all have the Kingdom Marriage, God wants us to have.