Your adornment must not be merely external-braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear. (1 Peter 3:3-6 NASB)
I am ultimately responsible for how I respond in any given situation. Is God pleased with my response and with my actions? Is what I have on the inside reflecting on the outside? I'm certainly not perfect, and some things still strike a nerve, but I'm striving daily to be a Kingdom Woman from the inside out and pleasing Him is more important than anything else. If God is pleased with my heart, I'm not too concerned with what anyone else thinks.